May 31, 2018

Strong Arming an Issue of Confidence

Hello !
I feel like many plus size guys and gals, I have been self-conscious about my arms. People tend to get bigger in the arms, stomach, thighs areas and this is also usually where rolls and stretch marks appear. I’m not ashamed of the stretch marks on my stomach, or my thighs, like I have no problem if people can see them at all. But my arms have always been in point of err for me. And I'm not sure as to why. I prefer all of my short sleeve shirts to drop down to just above my elbow, and I pretty much always wear a jacket over anything sleeveless or spaghetti strap. I get the “aren’t you hot” question all summer long and yes, I’m still not taking this off so please stop asking me. Recently I have been testing my tolerance and wearing sleeveless outfits more to see if the world would actually end if people saw my upper arms and back. (I wore a this dress to a dance at my University and spoiler: the world didn't end. )

So, this top, not like me at all. It’s so bright, like super bright orange. I’m not going to lie but I was a little bit scared when I ordered it. But while I am in this quest to figure out what my Summer style is I thought I would try something new. (bare with me there will probably be a lot of new things, in the coming months) It's in a size 18 so it's roomy like pretty much everything is on me right now. I thought the very up and down rectangle shape of the top wouldn’t be flatter on me at all, but it turns out where the neckline cuts across is perfect. I am quite big busted, (40 DDD/E) and I feel like unlike most tank tops this one didn’t make my breasts look 4X their actual size. I also love how big the straps are because they completely covered my bra straps. (these straps are THICC big bust probs)

On this day I set up a picnic for me and my friend in a park nearby. It was 87 degrees, so we found a huge beautiful tree to sitting under and have bugs crawl all over us. It was a beautiful day, I can honestly say I felt great in this outfit. I am wearing my distressed mom jeans for ASOS, since losing weight I have to wear a belt with all of my pants and I like what it adds to this outfit.  And to finish the look off I slide my feet into my well loved cross strap white Steve Madden slide sandals and my popped new gold and black cat eye sunglasses, also from ASOS.

With this outfit I did a couple of things that I never thought I would. But I felt cute and I wasn’t dying in the heat underneath a jacket.  So I urge all of you whether it be your arms or your legs, or your stomach, show it off! This summer is “All Pudge, No Judge” and if someone says anything to you, at least you have full range of motion to lift both your middle fingers up and let them where to stick it.

- Y

What are some of your fav picnic snacks? My friend bought nothing but Lifesavers and Sprite to this one cause she is a hot mess and a child (love you Cycy, Happy Birthday again) 

Orange square neck tank - here
Distressed mom jeans - sold out 
Metal cat eye sunglasses - here 
Monki 'escape' beach bag - sold out similar here 
Abstract face hoop earrings (cant seem to stop wearing these) - here
White leather cross slides - sold out similar here and here



  1. You are so inspiring, I hope I can become as confident as you are. Thank you for sharing and teaching us gals how to overcome the bullshit people tell us 💜💜💜💜💜

    1. Oh thank you so much, I'm glad you enjoyed it. <3 <3 You know I'm all about ignoring people's bullshit :)

  2. You look fabulous! So happy you are wearing what YOU want <3

    1. Thank you so much ! I'm glad you enjoyed. My #LifeGoal is to do just that. <3


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